Shalom! My wife once was having a conversation with a friend, and she asked how does our child feel about our new lifestyle. She said advised her that he enjoys it and does not see it as a burden. Her friend then said, ” He just likes because you guys like it”, as if that was a bad thing. Anything a child likes or takes in, comes from the parent, whether good or bad. We live in a twisted generation where we give children TOO MANY options, but we don’t a value on children’s upbringing. As Whitney Houston put it, the children are the future, and they will be the ones leading the way. Many of us are coming out of the secular world, and Torah is new to us. We(adults) are fighting to unlearn what we once thought was right, so it actually may be harder for us. Our children minds are developing, and are much more susceptible to new ideas and thoughts. It is more important for them to get understand truth than us. We should be instilling these values in our children so Torah does not get lost along the way.
I personally recite the Shama or Shema ( Deut 6:4-9) with my son everyday before school. This reminds me what I should be doing as a believer of the Bible. We can sometimes get so wrapped in ourselves, we forget one of our most important duties as followers of Yah, which is to teach our children. We should not necessarily “force” Torah on our children, but it should definitely be a requirement if they live under your roof. Back to the friend that said ” He just likes because you guys like it” . Well, that is kinda the point. Your child can take up different interest/hobby, but your moral/spiritual foundation should be the same. As I was growing up, my parents told me to do certain things( or not do) and I did not completely understand why at that time. In many cases, it was not until I was out of house and in my own life, that I realized what I was being taught. Ex. I maybe did not know why I was told only to play on one side of the street, but learned they wanted to make sure I was not hit by a car and they were looking out for my safety. Just like we did not know why Sabbath was important when we first started observing, but learned the purpose and benefits after doing it continuously and growing in Torah. That’s how we should be with Yah. With our relationship with Yah, we may not completely understand the law, and look at it as restriction or chastisement, but if we continue to obey him with our heart, the purpose will be revealed to us. It should be the same way with our children.
A lot of us send our children to school for 7-8 hours a day, and are taught things they probably will never use in life. Although some school information is “good to know”, but is that what Yah wants our children to solely learn. While we spend 8-10 hours working as well, we get too caught up in the hustle and bustle to properly train our children to combat this wicked world. I understand we all have to work, and many cannot home-school our children, but we should be making sure Torah is top priority in their life at all times. It seems now that society teaches children about anxiety and sexual preferences. Newsflash, your child ( or yourself) want be depressed if submerge yourself in Yah and true understanding.
My sons do not have the option to not observe Shabbat, Feast Days, eat unclean foods, do pagan activities, etc, because they are unknowing children, but with the constant training and repetition, it will become second nature to them. In turn, they will be not be tempted easily when they go out into the real world. We also have the concept that, no matter how much to teach your kid, they will still go out and be disobedient. With that outlook, our children are sure to fail. If we think that children can be raised in TRUE Torah ( not Judaism), and still have the same missteps as a worldly child, you don’t have that much trust in Torah. We cannot judge how we have been raised, because that simply was not a solid foundation. We are setting up road blocks for our children based on our misunderstanding of scripture. We should always be enforcing the values of Yah on our children so the cycle can continue. Throughout the Bible, Isarel kept forgetting Yah’s name, laws, commandments, and statues causing them to fall in idolatry. Why do you think that? Because they were not instilling them in the future generation.
Satan, man, the world, media ( or whoever you think pulls the strings) knows that the children minds are what should be focused on. That’s why media is so heavenly focused on them and their thoughts. So now we have 10 year children saying they think they are the wrong sex, and parents actually allowing it. ( that is absurd and sick!) If you don’t teach Torah to your children ( and require they learn it) the world will definitely force new age ideas on them. We also must realize that our children are a reflection of ourselves, and our relationship with Yah. If your relationship with Yah sucks, then your relationship with your child sucks, point blank. Please overcome what the world has told us, because we must be a light to our children, so they can be a light to their children. Shalom.